“Those of us with a tendency to worry believe it is helpful for coping (it is not), believe it is uncontrollable (which means we don’t try to stop worrying), and try to suppress worry thoughts (which actually strengthens and reinforces worry).” Unfortunately, neither of these coping strategies is very effective.” - page 11 “Our anxiety often leads to one of two coping mechanisms: worry or avoidance. It’s the most effective strategy we have available to get control again and feel better. So next time you are overwhelmed, give yourself time, permission and space to take ten minutes out. And the research shows there is only one way to come back from being overwhelmed and unable to function: The difference between being in the weeds and being blown and overwhelmed, is that in former state you can still function, in the latter you can’t.
You’re expected back in ten minutes, ready to go, but for ten minutes, there’s a complete takeover.” - page 5 When you’re blown, you can either step outside or into the cooler or go to the bathroom (and cry). Normally someone runs to the hostess stand to find out what tables you’re running that shift-they don’t even assume you know at this point. 💥On the other hand if you went into the kitchen and said “I’m blown”, “The response would be, “What do you need?” I might say, “Can you take bread to tables 2 and 4, and re-tea tables 3 and 5, please?” 🌱If you walk into the kitchen and said “I’m in the weeds”, 💥“Being blown” meaning being overwhelmed. 🌱 “In the weeds” meaning being stressed, and
Brené spent six years waiting tables while she was studying at university, and still uses two of the terms she learnt working in the restaurant business today:
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